This post is all about 12 ways you’re sabotaging your college success.
Yup. You read the title right. It is definitely a thing to sabotage your own success.
You may not even realize you’re doing it either. It can come as the result of sooo many things. It can be the result of the way you were raised and the things people have said to you that you have knowingly or unknowingly internalized.
It’s time to flip the script. All of your life people have made it seem like your goals were too ambitious or that you would never accomplish what you said you would accomplish. These things couldn’t be further from the truth.
This post is going to show you how you’re sabotaging your success and what you can do to turn it around.
Are you ready because we’re about to change your life.
That last line might seem a little dramatic, but stick with us for a while. We’re here to help!
12 Ways You’re Sabotaging Your College Success
1.You don’t believe you’re worthy of success. Studies have shown that by the time we are a couple years old, we’ve heard the word “no” way more than we’ve heard the word “yes.” Apparently this has a significant impact on our lives in the long run.
Without even realizing it, we go through life believing we don’t deserve success. As we’re growing up, something a friend or relative says to us defines our life. It may seem like something small, but when you tell someone you want to be a millionaire, and they say, “good luck with that.”
They project their feelings onto you—they themselves haven’t figured out how to be successful, so what makes you think you can be successful? Of course money alone does not equate to success, however, for most people it’s a part of success.
Know that you are worthy of whatever you set out to accomplish in life. If you want millions, you are more than worthy of it. If you want to make all A’s this semester, go for it. If you want to graduate at the top of your class, do it. Don’t allow anyone to make you believe that you aren’t worthy of success, because you are.
2. You’re waiting for someone else’s approval. When you make up your mind to accomplish a thing, you don’t have to wait for someone to approve of it. All you have to do is go out and make it happen.
You should also be careful who you share your goals and dreams with. If you’re not secure and confident in your idea, someone can talk you right out of it. Make the goal, do your research and then get to work.
Sadly, it is those who are closest to us who kill our dreams without even realizing it. The famous actor and movie producer, Tyler Perry’s mother told him to quit because he’ll never be successful. His own mother, did he quit? No. Because he had unshakable faith in his dream. On that note, keep going.
3. You refuse to stick to your to-do list. That to-do list that you never seem to get around to? Yeah, it’s holding you back. Start slowly, you don’t have to add twenty things to your list per day. This could be the exact reason why you aren’t getting anything done. Start with putting 1-3 things on your to-do list per day and then gradually work your way up. It works!
4. You think it’s impossible to get an A in that hard ass class. Ok, so let’s be real here. Is it really impossible to get an A or are you too lazy to study enough to get the A?
We live in a world of instant gratification. So, we’d rather take a nap for an hour instead of studying for an hour more. When we know good and well we haven’t mastered the material. Do yourself a favor and work a little harder this time around.
Make a commitment to studying on Saturdays when you most likely have more time to study vs going to a party and hanging out with friends. Listen, we never said it was easy, we just said it was possible. In order to be great in life, you have to sacrifice some things. However, the rewards are unimaginably amazing.
5. You think you can cheat your way through life. Hopefully this one doesn’t resonate with you at all, but it’s true. People put in mediocre results but want to live the life of a millionaire. We hope you know it doesn’t work like that.
You have to be willing to work hard, sacrifice and have faith in yourself to get the job done. There are no shortcuts in life. You do not just fall into success and you do not just fall into a mediocre life. Your life is the result of the choices you do or don’t make. Choose wisely.
6. You choose to be a victim instead of a victor. Have you heard this quote before: Someone took the hand you were dealt and played the hell out of it? Stop thinking that your life is trash and it will never get better.
It’s understandable that we all have trials that we go through in our lives. But, are you going to lay down and accept it? Or are you going to get up and do something about it? You should choose the latter.
If you choose to sulk in your misery, then your life will never change. Instead of thinking, “why me?” Think, “why not me?”
7. You refuse to learn more. If you don’t know how to do something, you should do yourself a favor and find out. You can only use the, “I don’t know” excuse for so long. Do whatever you have to do to find the answers to your questions.
Read a book, ask your professors, watch a YouTube video, find a mentor etc. The information is out there, you just have to find it.
8. You’re always making excuses. Instead of taking accountability for your actions, you make excuses for why you can’t do something. Excuses will hold you back big time. If you are an excuse maker, practice how to become a person that doesn’t make excuses. Become the person that makes shit happen instead.
Tell yourself that you will no longer accept excuses from yourself. Turn the situation completely around. Hold yourself accountable and you’ll be soon on your way to becoming a person who never makes excuses.
9. You have a negative mindset. If you haven’t read our post on 53 life changing affirmations and 55 positivity affirmations that actually work, you should go read them now. You can change your negative mindset into a positive one if you truly want to change. You can literally rewire your brain to think differently if you actually want to.
A negative mindset won’t get you very far. Not to mention, people hate being around negative minded people. If negative energy is what you put out into the world, negative energy is what you will get back. On the contrary, if you are a positive person, you tend to see positivity all around you.
10. You give up at the first sign of defeat. So many people don’t even realize they’re at the doorstep of the life they want because they turn around right before they get there. Progress is invisible at first. You may think you aren’t making progress, but if you take a look back, you’re so far from where you’ve come.
Do you know what success is? Success is essentially, failing fast. To become successful, you have to try things that you don’t know will work. That thing may or may not be successful and then guess what? You have to try and try again until you get the desired result. This process may take months, or it may take years. The point is to never give up. Your time is coming.
11. You’re too hard on yourself. The way you talk to yourself is essential. We all fall short and we all make mistakes. This week you may be on a roll with your to-do list and then next week you may completely fall off the wagon. You have to keep going. It’s a never ending process of getting up and trying again.
Don’t be too hard on yourself. You’re in process and you’re learning. As long as you never give up, you’re on the right path.
12. You’re satisfied with mediocrity. Some people are so used to their current situation that they find it extremely difficult to do things differently. As a result, they never change their lives and they keep the same routine because it’s safe.
Remember this, insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Also, to live a life you’ve never lived, you have to do something you’ve never done.